Nadya Suleman: Conversations are becoming more difficult because the true motive and point is lost. There are too many social rules. And frankly, i don't care about anything except for what i'm doing. No, that's not true. I care about Quality. SHOW ME SOMEONE, ANYONE, WITH QUALITY, and i will show you my appreciation and gratitude. You're saying "What does it matter if you like what i do? I don't care what you think. I don't care what anyone thinks!" And that is why i'm a raging misanthrope! I'm sick of nobody caring! My opinion DOES matter and you telling me that it doesn't HURTS MY FEELINGS!
Why are the Fancy Space People one of the best bands in LA (and possibly the whole planet)? Because EVERYONE LOVES THEM! And They've come to save the Human Race.
When i'm riding the bus, I always make sure to sit next to the window. There are several reasons but the main ones: it seems to be most logical as far as making sure the seats are distributed fairly and in a timely manner. I walk on the bus and so very often most of the people are sitting in the aisle seat. It's awkward because when there are several people behind me, the person sitting in the aisle has to get out of the way so that i can sit (and most often you have to look them dead in the eye, nod your head to the window seat and say "Excuse me, i need to sit there"). Though there is a direct contact with someone you don't know and that can be a good thing when kindness is in your heart, there still remains an energy struggle which is already exhausting when you're on the bus. It also crams everyone up feeding into your imagination that there must be some sort of selfish motive behind it all. And worst, it's alienating (which i'm sure they want, whether aware or not). I'm the last one to say i love having conversations on the bus. I avoid them at all costs but there's an obvious difference between common courtesy and the darker side of life.
Ok, the last statement might be unfair (people have groceries, oversized knock off designer bags, too many art supplies hauling to boyfriends house etc etc), but really it's only logical for the greater good of mankind to sit near the window when given the choice. For starters, you can reflect. There are so many wonderful insights in all the commercial signs, people, cars, billboards, and so on, you could spend an entire afternoon putting pieces to the puzzles you've been working on. And if you're not watching the world pass by, then you can check your hair and makeup or see who that person in the back of the bus is, ranting about whatever without having to come off as rude by standing up and turning your head to see who could possibly be saying this stuff.
*****Sitting next to the window is more efficient when people are trying to find seats. It's inviting but without having too much spiritual intimacy (you don't need to look at the person who sits next to you, also giving off non-discriminating vibes).
(25 seconds) "oh he only saved it cuz he thought it might be worth something later on."
Est. Foormagio? my hand got really shaky since all i cold think about were all the hidesous mistakes i was making thruout the day.
1. nail biting. Can doctors really tell what i'm thinking? 2. repeating the same things i've been saying for over 4 year. 3. too much sex. 4. too many tight bras. 5. when our consciouness unites like everyone is saying it is, does that mean that people will really know how i feel about them or is it that they will just feel the same way about me? 6. names that bug me: Wait, should i really write them?
Well, i have to defend this by saying i am rarely star struck. Between ADM Project and World of Wonder i've seen my fair share of "stars" but I saw Chris Crocker at World Of Wonder a few months ago and sorta flipped out. He's known sorta kinda in the 15 minutes of fame realm as the "leave brittney alone" guy but THIS video down below is what really gets me:
I got all shaky and anxious when i saw him but it was the first time i actually walked up to someone and said "I really admire what you do". I'm not sure what's going on with him now. It's hard to speculate but what i do know is i realize i have a thing for ambiguity.
Anyhow, i saw Andrew Andrew last night and sorta freaked out. It was crazier tho cuz i listen to them on their podcast consistently so i feel like i know them and so on.
November 2006
November 2008!
It was a complete surprise and shock to see them at the Paper Party last night. I mean, that's where i heard about them 2 years ago but still. Plus i didn't think we were going cuz Brian didn't come off like he wanted to but by th end of the night and we realize like OMG everyone was going, we just had to of course ; ) They were pretty nice and patient with me. I felt so silly even saying anything but i just had to tell them that I LOVE THEM I mean who knows what can happen! I would have regretted not being able to! So if you see someone you love you must tell them immediately because you will regret it if you don't!
"And she had to play her favorite song 16 times, while listening intently on her headphones, in order to remember what it was she wanted to say in the first place"-Rene Descartes
Givaudan, and Givaudan only.
The three components, pictorially labeled on the vertices of a triangle, interact with each other and with the actions they produce and with the actions that produce them so as to form seven different kinds of love experiences (nonlove is not represented). The size of the triangle functions to represent the "amount" of love - the bigger the triangle the greater the love. The shape of the triangle functions to represent the "type" of love, which may vary over the course of the relationship:
Nonlove is the absence of all three of Sternberg's components of love.
Liking/friendship in this case is not used in a trivial sense. Sternberg says that this intimate liking characterizes true friendships, in which a person feels a bondedness, a warmth, and a closeness with another but not intense passion or long-term commitment.
Infatuated love is pure passion. Romantic relationships often start out as infatuated love and become romantic love as intimacy develops over time. However, without developing intimacy or commitment, infatuated love may disappear suddenly.
Empty love is characterized by commitment without intimacy or passion. Sometimes, a stronger love deteriorates into empty love. In cultures in which arranged marriages are common, relationships often begin as empty love and develop into one of the other forms with the passing of time.
Romantic love bonds individuals emotionally through intimacy and physically through passionate arousal.
Companionate love is an intimate, non-passionate type of love that is stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment. Sexual or physical desire is not an element of companionate love. This type of love is often found in marriages in which the passion has gone out of the relationship but a deep affection and commitment remain. The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love, as is the love between close friends who have a platonic but strong friendship.
Fatuous love can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage in which a commitment is motivated largely by passion without the stabilizing influence of intimacy.
Consummate love is the complete form of love, representing an ideal relationship toward which people strive. Of the seven varieties of love, consummate love is theorized to be that love associated with the “perfect couple”. According to Sternberg, such couples will continue to have great sex fifteen years or more into the relationship, they can not imagine themselves happy over the long term with anyone else, they weather their few storms gracefully, and each delight in the relationship with one other. However, Sternberg cautions that maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it. He stresses the importance of translating the components of love into action. "Without expression," he warns, "even the greatest of loves can die". Thus, consummate love may not be permanent. If passion is lost over time, it may change into companionate love.
Lisa: OMG, I fucking love my boyfriend to the point where like i think that i'm crazy and that i want to see him all the time. He's like always popping into my head even when i'm not thinking about him and i think that it's because i am so like fucking obsessed with him.
Danielle: You're not crazy, just immature. It's not good to be so obsessed with him. You should really like try to think of something else.
Lisa: Well, i don't want to think of any other guys if that's what you mean.
Danielle: That sounds slutty. No, that's not what i mean. Think about things that are more important like what are you going to do about your living situation? Aren't you worried about your money spending? You're always buying Burger King shit and i don't know what the fuck else you're doing but you need to stop asking me for 5 bucks all the time.
Lisa: Haha Money's bullshit so why not spend it? Fuck it ok? I got me a nice dress and that's that oh and i'm not a slut ok? You're the fucking slut! You're cheating on Adam with Derrick and Derrick isn't even hot so i don't know what the fuck you're all trippin' about, ha.
(Lisa blows nose)
Danielle: But you said that Adam was an asshole! You said it wasn't right the way he was treating me. You fucking said he was flirting with other girls at DeeDee's party! What the fuck, Lisa?!
Lisa: Ya, he is a douchebag but that means you should, uh like, break up with him instead of cheating on him like this. It's been like a month, right? No, more like a month and a half because i saw you give him your number outside of Starbucks when we went after blazing steady. DeeDee said what's up to us and remember that was the day her car got broken into? Yeah. A fucking month and a half. I saw him touch your butt and you liked it.Isn't it weird fucking two guys at the same time? How do you compartmentalize that shit?
Danielle: It's easy. When i'm with Adam, I pretend i'm sucking Derrick's dick.
(girls laugh together)
Excerpts from: The good Book of Luck and Living
Just remember that when you're involved with Chris, you're involved with a peacemaker, a diplomat, a balancer and a glamor puss. When you get involved with Gwyneth, you get involved with a rescuer, a victim, a mystic and an idealist.
If you can give him class, style, fairness and equality then you have a better chance of getting their love and affection. If you can give her help, health, fantasy and art, you have a better chance of getting their love and affection.
Chris is a nice person and tends to be a bit more cultured and "better" than others. Usually, he is also diplomatic enough to keep your superiority complexes in check. The more that Chris becomes fair-minded, impartial and unprejudiced, the happier he becomes. He has the potential for much social intercourse and favorable public contact. To really thrive, Chris needs to be part of a loving, committed "marriage."
All things being equal, Chris prefers civil conversation. He usually does not find reason for raised voices or crude language at inappropriate times. Embarrassment can be an issue for him too. He likes to ask for advice, but does not like to be told what to do. He really needs a cushy job in a swanky environment.
There are at least two sides to Gwyneth's personality. One is more kind, loving, tolerant and long-suffering than most people. The other can be biting. She doesn't want to hurt people, unless she is feeling righteous and need to punish the guilty.
It's fair to say that Gwyneth is imaginative, a dreamer, and even mystical. She certainly seems to absorb and drink in surroundings more than most people. She has mood swings and can benefit from live music and dance. Gwyn can break the chains of fate and destiny. More than most people, she is a product of beliefs as much as disbeliefs. As Henry Ford said that she, "Whether you think you can or you can't, you are right."
In the relationship between Chris and Gwyneth adjustment is key. You both need to give more than you get. This association requires extra sensitivity. At first, each may be somewhat irritated about each other. In time, with work, the very thing that caused the irritation may lead to personal fulfillment. You can't force growth in this alliance- go along with the changes. To beat the odds, change your routines.
